By: Michael Lee
Coping with difficult people is a necessary survival skill if you want to make it past 30 without getting any heart problem. The good news is that it’s not impossible and many people have learned (through evolution) how to deal with extremely difficult circumstances.
If you want to know their secrets to coping with difficult people, read on!
Step # 1: Keep Distance.
I’m not saying you should stay away from difficult people (since some of them might be your direct boss or your co-worker), but you should definitely keep your distance emotionally.
Sometimes, it takes only one person to ruin your day. Don’t give that person that kind of power over you. When someone rudely brushes you off, don’t allow yourself to get angry. Instead, detach yourself from the situation and move on.
When someone insists on doing things the hard way, don’t get your knickers in a twist. Coping with difficult people doesn’t mean you have to actively do something about the situation. In fact, you don’t have to respond or react to anything at all.
Step # 2: Accept Them For Who They Are.
Coping with difficult people is… well, difficult, but it gets a whole lot easier when you accept them for who they are right from the bat. That way, when they do something “difficult,” you can simply dismiss it as them being them. In a way, being difficult is just their nature.
After all, don’t you have friends with more than a few negative traits and yet you love them anyway? And anyway, difficult people being difficult has absolutely nothing to do with you. It’s a problem they have to deal with on their own.
Step # 3: Don’t Dwell On It.
When you’ve had a bad day courtesy of a difficult person at work or at the supermarket, let it go. Don’t keep telling your friends about it. Don’t keep thinking about it. Dwelling on that experience or that person only increases your chance of encountering that same experience or person in the future.
You’ve probably heard of the law of attraction, right? Besides, the more you think about it, the more your dislike and impatience grows. And when that happens, you just might turn into a more difficult person than the one you were originally mad at in the first place.
Coping with difficult people can be a nightmare; but with the right attitude and perspective, you’ll have no problem getting through your life in one piece! I mean it. Dealing with difficult people can be downright therapeutic if you follow these steps.